As much as it kills me to do so, I will be limiting my in-person dates to repeat clientele only, 4 per month, with a minimum of a 2 hour donation. I anticipate that this will continue until the summer of 2021.
May we all be safe and satisfied.
I will be offering an OnlyFans page with content including audio of me reading my own erotic stories and those of others, videos, beginners classes, question & answer sessions, and snippets of my life.
I am offering custom video, audio, and writing. Have an idea you would love to see played out? Want to learn a certain knot or technique and would like it in video? Message me and arrange for deposit and payment via Amazon, PayPal, or e-transfer.
I am offering online phone chats and sexting. And you know what? All those things that I don’t offer in person, I am absolutely delighted to talk about. Fantasy is glorious, isn’t it? Video and phone dates are also available with my dear friend Ray.
Come on, darling, let's get up to trouble. Available on short notice, very few topics off limits, Signal app suggested but not necessary. Use them up over up to three days or use them up all in one go.
My written word is the filthiest I get. I would love to spin a tale for you. Available via email, posted as a blog post for the exhibitionist in you, or sent to your house as a letter.
Writing for someone is my favourite sexy thing to do, next to being with them in person.
Have an idea for a secret you want me to tell you? Know a special bedtime story you'd like me to read? I'll record it and send it to you for keeps.
Silly, sweet, salacious. Something just for you.
Have a naughty scene you'd like to spy on? Let's create something for your collection.
Have a knot you want to learn? Want me to walk you through everything I know about something? Ask me. I've been teaching for 15 years and love to share what I know.
Oh goodness, what a mess we can get into!
Ever thought about being a puppetmaster? Good golly, we're dollies! Dress us up and have me pose Ray, or pose us both, all from the comfort of your bedroom.
Have sinister plans for Ray and want to tell me what to do with her? Want us to tell you the filthiest story we can think of? Make a date.
"Fantasy is escapist, and that is its glory." ~Tolkien.
Indulge in all of my attention and let me take you on a journey of exploration in the bewitching world of kink, domination, submission, fetishes, and role-play. If it is under the umbrella of kink and is a little naughty or out of the ordinary, I am probably excited to explore it with you. I do not provide oral or full service, but I will gladly pleasure you in other ways - I love to see you shudder and writhe beneath my hands.
Enough time for us to find a little trouble, and see what leaves you breathless.
Time enough for a deeper delve, multiple fetishes, and a divine tease.
My preferred scene length. We have enough time to explore the darker, more sensual, or nuanced parts of our kinks. It goes by quickly but leaves room for subspace and an altered sense of reality - get out of your head for a while and vacation in a looking glass world of seduction and domination.
Add an hour to any scene two hours or more, and see where the rabbit hole can take you.
I am a qualified massage therapist, with a heart full of lust and sensuality. Full body massage, with the lightest slip of unscented organic oil, my skilled hands all over your body, eradicating knots, dissolving your worries, arousing your senses. Culminating in a gradual, ecstatic, explosive release.
A little escape in your day, a bit of tease, a rub, and sweet release.
The perfect rendezvous. Feel your tension melt away beneath my talented fingers, my long hair brushing your skin, our breath rushing together.
A deep discount over my one hour session, two hours gives us time to explore each others sensuality, include a bit of fetish or role-play if you like, and truly abandon yourself to pleasure.
If you are looking to receive trigger point therapy, Tui Na acupressure massage, or another purely therapeutic massage, I am happy to treat you. No hanky panky or fancy outfits - just a relaxing and professional massage.
Probably You. Definitely Your Girlfriend.
I became polyamorous as a cheap excuse to have more threesomes. I would love to be the guest star in your steamy movie, the tour guide for your adventure in kink, or the human sex toy there to please you and help you connect as a couple.
I don't charge a set extra rate for couples. Tips are appreciated.
I'm ravenously bisexual, radically queer, and definitely into pleasing women. I have been told that I have magic hands and I will be delighted to explore your body. I do not charge extra, but instead will be more gracious with my time with you. You will not be rushed and I will treat you like the precious treat you are.
I am glad to see you no matter what colour you are, how your body moves or functions, how old you are (over 21), how much you weigh, or how you express your gender. If you communicate with me in a kind and open way, and treat me with respect, I am glad to treat you like the perfect slut, heavenly hunk, dirty pig, or gentle gent you deserve to be.
Want me to come to you?
I am happy to come to your hotel in Richmond, Vancouver, or North Vancouver. I will consider home visits for repeat clients only.
Live outside of the lower mainland and want me to teach or tease in your city? Cover my airfare and 3 nights hotel, and I am on my way! (not available until Covid is under control.)
I have been teaching BDSM for 12 years, and have presented internationally at conferences such as Westcoast Bound, Fapcon, Ropecraft, Dark Odyssey Summer Camp, Surrender, Winterfire, Winter Wickedness, Fusion, Kinkfest, and Kinky Kollege. In addition to the classes listed here, I am glad to discuss one on one training that is tailored to your personal needs. Feel free to bring your partner.
New to rope bondage? Need a primer on how to navigate the kink community? Want to learn how to throw that flogger you just bought? Looking for a knowledgeable and understanding mentor? Let's sit down for truth and tea in my living room, or get into techniques in the dungeon. Bring your partner with you, or come alone.
If "what the hell is wrong with you?" is your idea of seduction, you'll get along just fine in this class. Rapid fire demonstrations (with audience participation!) of one terrible idea after another, that can help push a scene from intense to terrifying, or serious to ridiculous. Xanthine will go over bad ideas that turned out to be actually bad ideas, and bad ideas that have become favourites. +10 to creativity, -10 to sanity.
Have you ever been stuck trying to remember that chest harness you learned, but can't recall which way the rope goes next? Are you tying someone who is differently abled, or need to adapt to a persistent injury and don't have a tie for it in your bag of tricks? This class will help you to understand the dynamics of tension and how rope works, allowing your rope to flow more smoothly, and adapt to every situation with a new tie. Free your rope!
With fifteen years of bodyworking under their belt, Xanthine has naturally incorporated healing into their BDSM. Sore muscles and injuries can hinder your play, or with a bit of education and assessment, they can allow you to unleash your sadistic side in the name of science and healing. Identify issues, assess rope placement and positions, make your bottom call you every name in the book and thank you for it afterwards. For Science!
This class is for the dark, perverted, shadowy corners of your brain. Each person’s unique psychology influences their stress reactions, perceptions of fear, and responses to stimuli. We will explore how to mold environmental factors to heighten and accentuate individual perceptions, and discuss the subtle, tricksy knack of negotiation for fear play. We'll get into methods we can use to identify, assess, and manipulate fear, conflict, and strain for physiological response and emotional release.
We often call BDSM ‘play’, and shy away from exposing the therapeutic, cathartic side of what we do. But what if you want to explore? If you want to integrate spiritual, emotional release and transformation into a scene, this class aims to give you tools to arm yourself for a journey into the dark part of play. We will learn to use tools, psychology, and environmental factors to induce altered states, push past, surprise ourselves with what mind, body, and connection is capable of achieving.
Negotiation is a necessary part of play and....zzzzz......Yeah, it's usually boring. And often ineffective. Get past the doldrums and into the science of brain chemistry. Learn how we make decisions and why, and how that can help you turn pre-scene negotiation banter into tactical, enticing, informative foreplay.
Psychology, physics, and anatomy combine with a side of eastern medical philosophy and a hefty punch of sadism to create a bio-kinesiological brute squad of techniques to hurt, heal and surprise. Evil fucker impact play with a side of helpfulness. Come with a partner or be paired up.
How do people make decisions? You want to play with predicaments but how to predict the outcome? Learn to use cognitive bias and new discoveries in neuroscience to predict how a bottom will react and be motivated, and use this to structure the scene. Predicaments give goals to look forward to and shake up the usual "beat me, Seymour" of dungeon play. Looks of consternation, pleading eyes, mad scientist in the lab - get your creativity flowing and your bottom looking for a hole to crawl into.
Pokey, stabby, bleedy. Needle play is intoxicating – shiny, visceral, methodical.
. Why do we put needles where we do? How can needle placement change the feeling in our bodies, aside from just the pain?
Learn how to use just a few needles to create an intense scene, and how a lightweight needle bottom can take hundreds, if given the right environment and attention. Learn to place needles in places to help chronic pain and mental fatigue, and to bring forth energy and emotion.
Switches are tricky beasts. How do you decide who plays which role? How do switches in a long term relationship get their needs met? What are the stereotypes around switches and how do we dismantle them?
Join So It Goes & Xanthine for a series of anecdotes, demos, and examples of how two switches can play with each other, how to switch mid-scene, switch games, getting your needs met as a bottom while still being a fierce top, and how to feed your top creature while still submitting as a bottom.
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
Jung said that what we deem evil, inferior, and deny in ourselves becomes the shadow self. How do we access it? How do we keep ourselves safe, know what to touch, what to stay away from? We'll explore the shadowy corners of our subconscious through psychology and a guided meditation exercise, animate our inner demons & safe spaces, tickle the ids of our partners.
An all-levels mean rope class from the depths of Xanthine’s witchy dyke heart. Minimal knots, rough textures, chemical assists, tension, compression, and attention to reaction and rhythm layer on a slowly encroaching, encompassing, snarly, sexy, woo-soaked blossoming onion of pain and sensation that capture and snare sadist, masochist, and rope partners together.
Bring rope (ideally sisal, manilla, coconut, and other scratchy fibres if you have them.
"You're a little scary sometimes, you know that? Brilliant ... but scary." — Ron Weasley